I had a great conversation with the fabulous Alison Smith on the 4th episode of The Knowing Self Knowing Others Podcast. Here are my Top Takeaways:
Metaphors for Problem Solving: Metaphors allow you to step out of logic and view problems and problem solving from a different perspective. ‘Can’t see the wood for the trees’ is a metaphor that allow you to look at solving re-gaining your vision from a very different perspective to the problem you’re actually experiencing.
From another perspective: All the reasons you have on your list for why you resist change are likely to be the same as those on the list of someone else. So, be aware and consider the change you’re trying to instigate and consider all of those resisters on your list. Explore different styles of communication and behaviour to undermine those resistors and move you into a position where you can achieve the change you want
Authenticity: The more self-aware you become, the more layers you’re able to peel away to reveal your authentic self. When people and appreciate that your behaviour of coming from a place of awareness and authenticity, they are more able to respond positively to you. When people cover themselves in layers and masks their true selves, it makes relationship-forming much more difficult. We have to own and accept all of our parts, good or bad
What you give out you get back: The meaning of the communication is the response you get. If people understand what you’re saying in a way that you didn’t intent, it’s not their understanding that needs a refresh but your communication of the message. They’re not getting it wrong: your communication isn’t reaching them.
